This is part 1 of my crash course in how to flirt without disaster. (Perhaps I should call it the “Non-Crash Course in Flirting”!) This part introduces a very simple exercise to improve your confidence in meeting and talking to women that you don’t know. I call it “smile and walk”.
The Smile and Walk
The biggest problem with this technique is that it is so simple that people ignore it. Please do not underestimate how much this simple flirt can help you.
First of all, it is probably a good idea to have a look in the mirror at yourself when you smile. If your smile is just a slight twitch in the corners of your mouth then you are not smiling enough. The woman you are smiling at might miss it – or just wonder if you have a nervous twitch. It needs to be a big smile. One that reaches your eyes, lights up your face and gets you noticed.
The Smile and Walk:
The idea is simple. As you are walking down the street, men and women will be walking twoards you. When you see an attractive woman, give her a big smile … and then carry on walking as if nothing out of the ordinary had happened.
When you first start doing this, a few women might look at you as if you are a little odd. Don’t let this put you off. Soon you will find it more natural and women will start to respond and smile back.
Do not just smile at every woman that you meet!
This is an easy mistake to make. But don’t do it. Only smile that the ones that you really think are attractive. The more genuine your interest in the woman is, the more likely it is that women will respond and smile back to you. And your interest will only be genuine if you really feel that she is attractive.
Since she will pass you in a second or two, this a low risk interaction. She will go on her way feeling good because someone noticed her. You will go on feeling good because she smiled back at you and you got the response you were after.
Afterwards think about the women that you felt were the most attractive. What was it about them that made you feel as though they were attractive?
Review your ideas about the kind of women that you would like to meet.
Thinking about the women that you found attractive, can you be more specific about the type of women that you would like to meet? Or were you being too specific about looks before?
Crash Course in Flirting Part 1: Hello and Walk
Once you are confident with the smile and walk, you might like to try this slight variation. When you are walking down the street, if you see an attractive woman smile at her and say “hello”. Do not stop walking to talk to her. Carry on with whatever you were doing as if nothing out of the ordinary happened.
Again, it is important that you only smile and say hello at the women that you genuinely find attractive.
As before, this is a low risk interaction. You will just carry on walking past her in the street. Yes, at first women may act as if you are a little odd. But, after a short while, women will smile and say hello back – sometimes almost automaticly. Some may even turn as if to reach out to you. Then you have truely mastered this technique!